The Difference Between Sexy and Trampy

As women, we have all had that experience where we were out in public and see another hopeless female on a date wearing something that is trashy, hideous, or completely outrageous and you wonder, “How does she think that is okay to wear on a date?” We all seem to wonder how such an obvious thing seems to slip their mind. But the truth is, some women just don’t know how to dress themselves and look classy for a night out. So, what do we do to stay sexy and sleek without trying too hard or showing too much?

Here are some tips for future occasions:

1. Wear undergarments! Although some women may think it looks sexy to have their girly figure exposed so everyone can see, it is just the opposite. Ladies, other people do not want to know what your breasts look like or the color of your panties. Please cover up! You could also go further and use such miracle inventions for women with curves like spanx to make your figure look sleek and slender.
2. Learn how to walk properly in heels! This may be a no-brainer for the women who walk in heels everyday, but many women hunch over or lean back while walking in heels. This could mean that your heels are too high for you, or you need learn how to properly hold yourself up. You want to look light and sexy when you walk around, not awkward and clumsy.
3. Make sure all is good in the pits! No one wants to see any little white flakes under your arms or on your clothes. When wearing sleeveless shirts or dresses, make sure to cover up the perspirant. Keep an eye out and make sure those white little marks that we all hate aren’t coming out to say hello.
4. Wear enough makeup to accentuate your features, but not too much! Some women go out with a fabulous outfit, while their face is left barren and boring. This is a good time to freshen up your look with a skin-matched foundation, a warm bronzer, smokey eyes, and red lipstick. But remember, too much makeup is just as bad as no makeup.
5. Know your body type! Every woman should know what silhouette looks good for their body type. Whether one is tall and thin or curvy and petite, it is very important that women understand how to highlight their assets well and downplay any perceived flaws. Women with curvier features look great in wrap dresses or pencil skirts, while tall and lean women look great in skinny jeans and stiletto heels. Women who wish to hide their less-than-perfect tummies should try baby doll dresses and empire waist blouses that show off their legs while avoiding their stomach. Stick to what looks good for you!
6. Breasts or Thighs, but not both! If you feel the need to accentuate your features, pick ONE! Revealing both is trashy and gives people the wrong impression of you. You don’t want to look “too easy” or raunchy. Your goal is classy, and a little skin will do.
7. Be unique but not weird! Nobody wants to show up at a party and be wearing the same outfit as someone else. Find your own signature style that signifies you and what you like to highlight. Don’t just follow the most recent fashion fad in the magazines. So many ladies are dressing and looking the same, be different, but not too different that you look distasteful.
8. Notice your body language! Sexy and confident women promote confidence and grace. They have good posture, a clear and confident smile, cross their legs, and have an engaging facial expression. You don’t want to be caught with your butt sticking out, arching your back to push your boobs forward, slouching, or sitting with your legs open.
9. Fix your hair! Hair extensions should not be showing, so find a hairstyle that hides them. Every woman should discover a style that accentuates their face and personality. Natural, soft colors look the prettiest and most sophisticated. A trip to the salon or good products can make hair more silky, shiny, and sexy.
10. Choose the right perfume! When choosing a perfume, it is best to avoid the ones that contain alcohol rather than perfume oil. Also, it is critical to only use a little bit, as many men find a massive amount of fragrance to be unappealing.

The simple combination of these tips will not only make you look and feel better, but will also help you attract the man of your dreams. In a man's eyes, the type of woman who reveals too much is typically viewed as a “one-night stand”. Although some men might be attracted to flashy women who don't leave much to the imagination, a REAL man wants a woman who they can proudly bring home to their mother. Ultimately, women who act and dress classy give off the impression that they want a long and lasting relationship. So Ladies, remember to keep it classy and show that there is more to you than just your body!

Ferocious Pheromones: Do they have more of an effect than we thought?

People have grown to love pheromones and the enchantment that they possess. This includes their effects on attraction, desire, sexual inhibitions and the overall desire to be intimately closer to each other. Not too many people know or fully understand the usefulness of pheromones in their lives and intimate relationships with others. Some ways that pheromones help with attraction include enhanced eye contact and affection, increased desires for sex, playfulness, flirting, attraction, and inhibition of sensual desire.The laws of attraction definitely apply when it comes to human pheromones and all that they are capable of. Their expertise lie in their ability to distinguish one individual from all of the rest, which can be done in the simple works of perfume or cologne.

There are many different kinds of natural human pheromones. Some of them include  Androstenol, Adrostenone, Adrostadienione and Copulins. Copulins, specifically, are female pheromones that are released when a woman is ovulating. This is why men are said to be so attracted to women during these times. An example of a popular marketed human pheromone today is Nexus Pheromones. It is contained in the form of a body spray, and has been shown to be quite effective during the attraction process. Gentlemen are likely to use this in the dating and club scene as a strategy to enhance their experiences with women during a night of fun.

All pheromones are gender and species specific. They have no smell or odor of distinction, they are sensed by organs in the nasal passage and sent to the brain. When someone experiences attraction for another, their brain triggers the release of certain chemicals. One chemical includes phenylethylamine (PEA) which is responsible for speeding up the flow of information between nerve cells, dopamine, and norepinephrine. Dopamine is what creates the feeling of pleasure and norepinephrine stimulates the production of adrenaline. When combined together, these natural chemicals help explain why being around someone who we are attracted to makes us feel a “rush” and our hearts beat faster. As those of you who have ever been in love know, as you progress in a relationship from “lust” to love, these feelings subside. These chemicals are the most effective in early stages of relationships.

In the world of relationships, human pheromones play an intimate part in the interaction of two people in love. Not only do they work very well in the dating scene, couples who are well established have experienced a more enhanced and exhilarating form of intimacy that is indescribable. Imagine getting closer to your partner without having to provide much effort. This scent of attraction works along with chemistry to increase levels of intimacy, attraction, attention and the desires for one another. The increasing levels of confidence, feeling good about oneself, and feeling more in control of emotions project to other people and in turn enhance one’s basic natural attraction.

The Dangers of Online Dating: Who Is Really At the Other End of the Screen?

Like receiving a wink without knowing where it might lead, online dating sites are full of surprises—few leading to happy endings, some to full-blown disasters. We here at Palm and Associates hear firsthand some of these horror stories, and many people come to us in order to avoid them. However, because of the several social advantages sites like Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr offer, many people continue to unknowingly overlook the possible dangers of the cyber world. While the Internet has certainly proved to be a great tool in bringing millions of people together and keeping connections alive, there are still some exceptions. And when it comes to online dating, we advise anyone considering it to do so with caution. With the amount of controversy concerning the uncertainly of internet identities these days, online dating sites tend be a lot more dangerous than expected.

Forgoing face-to-face interviews and thorough background checks, such sites offer minimal participant protection. Although some dating sites claim to hire agents who personally review profiles, they are not performing background checks or even checking IDs and criminals can enter their databases unnoticed. Even Match.com, whose fraud team consists of 100 agents, still acknowledges the uncertainty of member authenticity as “a few sophisticated criminals still slip through all of [their] checks*.” While not all online dating victims choose to speak up about their experiences, those who do have reported to being victims not only of theft, but to being emotionally deceived out what they believed to be a genuine relationship. For more information and to hear firsthand of some victim’s stories, take a look at these articles that further shed light on the dangers of online dating.

1) Won't Be Fooled Again: Women Duped by Online Dating Learn of Scams

2) Scammers Target Lovelorn on Match.com*

3) Online Dating Scams Take Big Emotional Toll, Expert Says

We have been surprised by the amount of “jail mail” that we have received here at Palm and Associates. Soon to be free inmates from various prisons have contacted us in hopes to meet someone when they have completed their time behind bars. Some of these individuals seem disturbed while others seem to be quite normal. Of course we would never accept them but, unfortunately the on-line sites would. So please remember to be careful, we are concerned with your safety.

Nothing Says Sexy Like A Beautiful Smile

Imagine going on a blind date. You spend all day getting ready in hopes of making a great first impression on your date. You suddenly hear your doorbell ring and get a rush of adrenaline as you run to open the front door. When you open the front door, you are delighted to see a very attractive person in front of you. They then introduce themselves with a smile and you are unexpectedly taken aback – their teeth appear to be crooked and of a harsh yellow color. You immediately feel turned off and are no longer anticipating going on the date you have been excited about and looking forward to.

Why does this happen? What is it about someone’s teeth and smile that can change our immediate impression of another person?

Our first impression of another person is usually displayed through their physical appearance. A person’s teeth and smile play a vital role in our impression of another as it provides us with a sense of how the person may be through the warmth displayed off from it. When it comes to love and romance, having a set of straight pearly white teeth is a vital part in starting a relationship with another. By nature, we are more attracted to those with white and straight aligned teeth. Not only do straight white teeth display proper hygiene, but more importantly they display a sense of youth and fertility, and make any individual seem more attractive and sexy. White teeth, also, are a determining factor in going steady with another, as they play a role in whether we would like to procreate with another, since ideally we would all like to provide our child with genes set up for good traits.

Not only can white teeth be a way in which we can start romantic relationships with another, but they also play a role in many other functions and activities within our lives. Straight white teeth can help us to land a job and have a better sense of self esteem. In the workplace environment, having a good set of teeth and smile are important in meeting new people and making a strong personal relationship with colleagues and clients.

Having straight white teeth are very important for everyone to have, especially when it comes to romantic relations, and luckily, they can be obtained rather quickly! So, if you are one of the many individuals who suffer from unaligned, crooked and/or yellow, discolored teeth, don’t worry! There are many easy solutions available to you (which we’ve provided below) to help you get that beautiful, sexy smile you’ve always wanted. 

Why Dinner Dates Are Better Than Lunch or Coffee Dates?

When deciding on whether to take someone on a date for dinner, lunch or coffee, how do you decide? When it comes to having a serious, romantic relationship, you should only have one choice: a dinner date. Here’s why!

The Dinner Date

When you ask someone on a dinner date, you are making it known that you would like the relationship to progress further than a friendship. Dim lit rooms, candle light, and the possibility of drinking wine with dinner set the ambiance for a more romantic meal. The romantic setting makes conversations between one another more serious, allowing you and your date to get to know one another on a more personal level. One of the best parts of going on a dinner date is the idea of endless possibilities. Without having to go back to work or other prior engagements typically planned during the day time, a dinner date leaves room for activities and conversation following dinner. You and your date will be free to carry on activities late into the night, whether it be drinking, dancing, a walk through the night, or even just continuing conversation with one another.

The Lunch or Coffee Date:  In Comparison

When I think of a lunch or coffee date, the first thing that comes to my mind is: friends. Going out for lunch or getting coffee is something that friends do with each other in a casual manner on a regular basis. When you go on a lunch or coffee date, the date isn’t as special as it would be during the night. The ambiance is not romantic and the atmosphere turns a date into a casual meeting. People fit lunch or coffee dates in a small time slot in their busy schedule in between work and other activities, which means that one of you will probably be eyeing the clock to make sure you make your other engagements on time. The time constraint put on the date means that the date will not be able to carry on following lunch or coffee, restricting how much you can learn and share with one another.

So, the next time you decide to take someone out on a date as a way to start off a relationship, be aware of the choice you make when it comes to dinner, lunch, or coffee. When you take someone out to lunch or coffee, realize that you are taking a step towards being in the “friend zone.” If you want to start your relationship on the right foot, take my advice and start off with dinner, and be ready to see a relationship unfold.